Whether your mother is loving or distant, caring or critical, this is a place to stop and reflect about the challenge of that maternal bond.
All daughters and mothers are welcome!

Friday, September 24, 2010

Looking for...

No mother is perfect...
we all do the best that we can.
Not until a woman has children of her own,
does she appreciate how difficult
the act of mothering is... 
trying to meet so many needs!

Only GOD can meet the deep
emotional, mental and spiritual
needs of children...
that's why HE is our loving and faithful
Heavenly Father!

My mother was a very wounded child.
She was a very unhappy mother.
Though she failed to connect with her children
in so many ways,
she left a BIG mark on our lives
and a BIG hole when she died.
Her greatest legacy: 
She was a wonderful grandmother!

I still crave unconditional love...
something she couldn't give me
because she never knew it.

How about you?
What did you need from your Mom
that you must trust GOD for?
He longs to meet us at our point of need...
He is the lover of our souls.


  1. Hi! Jess, you know after many conversations with my mom on her childhood, I was amazed of how unhappy my mom was as a child, she displayed some anger, and expressed abuse from a step-dad. I still believe to this day that back then my mom never had a chance to really; (or the resources) to deal with this.So she just learned to live with it, and never realized the effect it had on her whole life! Thanks for giving the opportunity to just share! Love this blog!

  2. I still struggle with that love thing. My parents did the best they could and I am sure they did better than their parents; but I never learned how to have deep conversations or relationships or to express love easily. God has worked a miracle in me, but there is still a loooooong way to go.

  3. Thank you Precious Ones for these heartfelt comments.
    You both raise a good point in that those of our mothers' generation really didn't have the resources we have today to "deal" with the emotional pain of their childhoods.

    There wasn't the access to counseling that we have and there certainly was a stigma attached to it. Praise GOD that HIS Love covers a multitude of sin!

    To find healing for our emotions we can: pray, journal, seek the counsel of a professional (or that of a trusted friend), go to a seminar, read annointed books on forgiveness, and study GOD's Word.

    The quest for wholeness is definitely a journey! I'm so glad that we have each other to encourage along the way. ((HUGS!))

  4. My mother was a 'wounded child' too, a working mother who never openly or fully expressed her love verbally, but as a retired grandmother, she became aware and bloomed. Her children, g/children and g/g/children miss her loving ways, but they each have a quilt made by her hands. I thank God that she didn't miss such a bond.

  5. Thank you Wanda for sharing about your Mom and the changes she went through. I used to be a bit jealous of the affection my Mom had for my children because I had always craved that from her. But I shared the kids unselfishly with her and enjoyed her enjoyment of them.
    When I think of how GOD provided for my mother emotionally and financially in the latter part of her life, it gives me great hope that He will likewise care for me!
    Blessings always~

  6. My mother lost her father when she was only 8 years old, and she was the oldest of 4 siblings. She never really had a childhood because her mother was forced to go out and work to support the family, and my mom in many ways became the "mother". Only late into adulthood have I realized how her painful early life shaped her and gave her the attitudes that she had when I was growing up, as the oldest of 7. I too was expected to be "little mommy" to my siblings...and missed a great deal of childhood. But I have to say also that my mom's great legacy will be that she is an amazing Grandma and Great-Grandma. It's never too late to heal and grow...