Whether your mother is loving or distant, caring or critical, this is a place to stop and reflect about the challenge of that maternal bond.
All daughters and mothers are welcome!



Sunday, September 18, 2011

Just Wondering...

If you were to write a book about your relationship with your Mother, what would you title it?

Really, what would it be called?  I'd like to know.

In my case, I've thought of titles like:  "Searching for Mother,"  "The Dutiful Daughter," and  "A Daughter's Final Gift."


Right now I'm reading a fascinating book by Patricia Beard (1999) entitled:  Good Daughters.
FYI, on page 18 she lists the goals of the "good daughter":

~ To help our mothers find meaning and comfort at the end of their lives.
~To have relationships with them that satisfy us both, and to engage with them as adults, with mutual respect.
~To love our mothers as uncritically as we did when we were children- or at least to be better than we have been lately at showing them that we love them.

What do you think about these? 
Any you would change or add?

God bless you and your mother.

Tuesday, September 13, 2011

Twenty Eight Years Ago Today...

I became a mother!

Motherhood is a privilege often
taken for granted.
Yet many are saddened by infertility,
so I appreciate the blessing all the more.
Katie Grace changed my life forever.
She is my only daughter and so close to my heart.
The love I have for her is deeper
than words can describe...
know what I mean?



Though she is busy raising her own children
out-of-state,
my thoughts walk beside her
and my prayers for her
bookend my days.


Truly the love I feel for her has helped me
love my own mother.
Though alcohol was a barrier to Mom's
expressions of love,
I came to understand that didn't diminish
the care she had for me.

On Katie's birthday, I am so thankful for
the awesome privilege
of watching her grow and blossom.
The challenges of parenting have been many
but the rewards ever more so.
I wouldn't have missed a day of it!

How about you?
Does your child's birthday
cause you to be introspective?
Does it remind you to be thankful?